Are your insecurities preventing you from moving on? Is, it hurting you as well as people who are somehow linked to you?
Well, don't feel bad about it, as we all are somehow insecure deep inside, about different things. A person can be insecure about his physical relation, his looks, his mentality or anything that comes into your mind at the moment. But, most people are very good at hiding their complexes while others are not.
The thing that needs to be thought about is how to break this cage of insecurities that we have to build around ourselves. How can we let our mind and soul set free? The good thing about this is that you don't need anyone else to help you out, but yourself. In order to find a way out, you need to first understand what made you develop these negative thoughts in your mind.
Usually, this can be triggered at any stage of life whether you are a child or adult, your mind is always ready to accept things that others are saying to you. Most of the people develop this during childhood as a result of any negative thing said or done by any person. Either you are bullied in school or scolded at home for little things, these statements remain in the mind. Disturbing a person emotionally and no matter how much hard you try you can't get over this.
To help you out, here are few things that you need to do.
1.) ACCEPT YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE
The first and the most important thing that you need to do is to accept the way you are at the moment. Stop trying to picture yourself on someone else's criteria.
Our minds have created a picture of perfection in our head and we all try to achieve that level of perfection. You need to understand the fact that nothing can be perfect and what you are thinking is just a pigment of your imagination.
2.) STOP JUDGING YOURSELF ON BASIS OF OTHERS OPINION
We all have this habit of judging our self on basis of someone else opinions. What others think about you is their opinion and not yours. So, stop trying to convince people.
This is something that we all do. Like wearing a very tight red dress just to make others look at you. But, why do things in that way? Why don't you think like I am wearing this dress because I love this?
3.) DONT COMPARE YOUR LIFE TO OTHERS
Every person has their own life, they are living it in their own way. You have your own, so enjoy it the way you are. Stop thinking and comparing yourself to others.
If you will keep thinking that how much fun your friends have in their life or how happy they are, then you can never achieve happiness in your life.
4.) YOUR GOODS
One of the easiest things to beat your insecurities is to enlist everything that you think is good in you. This is considered as one of the most effective ways of developing a love for your own self. As we all have habits of finding flaws in our self as well as others. This is what makes us start hating ourselves and we don't even realize that.
Having insecurities is not that big problem, as every one of us at some point of life must have felt rejected in the society. The thing is how you can overcome this. What you need to do is just give yourself some time and find out things that are good about you.